The other day I had an extremely bad day at work. Not because I was at work, because I love my job, it was because of my co-workers. At the end of the day I was seriously debating on quitting and or finding a new job.
The next day was the fucking cherry on top of the ice cream. My friend came and found me at school to tell of the awful things my co-workers were saying about me after I left work.
In the matter of an hour after her telling me this; I went through a series of emotions; which I think was a “normal” response.
1ST I was crying
I was wondering how these people who claim to like me and claim to be my friends, could even speak what they were saying about me!
2ND I was very frustrated
Then 3RD we have ANGER (which I am still in- image that)
Some of you may think “Well-shit. Your friend probably shouldn’t have told you.”
Well, I’m glad she did. I know people talk about other people behind there backs all the time- I even do. But, is it good things your talking about- is it things you would say to there face- or are you just completely being two-faced.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”
This post doesn’t mean that I’m magically hoping everyone will some how turn perfect. I’m just hoping we all can just do better from they day before- and To point out something that you might not always think of.
When a co-worker- or even some one you just know- makes a mistake, you shouldn’t battle them behind there back, or make fun of them. You should offer support, and feedback!
And it is probably a good idea to keep someones personal stuff personal. And not change what you think of the situation once the person is gone.
Gossip is detrimental to trust in a relationship. Whether you’re at work talking about coworkers or at home talking about a neighbor, it’s in poor taste to denigrate someone behind their back, and it can lead to long-lasting negative consequences. It’s a better idea to take it to the source. Honestly confront people if there is an issue and keep your descriptions of people positive when they’re not around. There are few things more hurtful or damaging to a relationship than gossiping about someone.
Whether it’s spreading rumors, speaking critically, or otherwise badmouthing someone, it’s just not a good idea. Gossiping should have no place at work. If someone has done something to offend you, go to them directly and work the problem out. Don’t cling to anger and let it diminish your performance and ability to work in teams.
Life is complex for us all. We never really know what another is going through. Speaking behind someone’s back innocently and or with the intent to hurt is one of the most anti-productive activities that inhibit businesses today. There’s no need to exacerbate or cause new problems by saying rude or undermining comments behind each other’s backs.
If I have an issue with you, I should come to you and have the courage to speak with you about the concern. So often when I’ve done that, even when I’ve been scared to do it, the outcome has been positive. We may not solve the problem, but we get closer to one another and it forms a deeper trust.
Whats wrong though with talking about people behind there backs if it is respectable, helpful, a compliment, or in service for the greater good. NOTHING!! people need to start doing this more.
I challenge you over the course of the next few days to pay extra close attention to when you talk about others behind their back.
If you’re about to say something negative – gossip, rumor, or criticism – then try your best to avoid saying anything about the person at all. Or, if you really want to talk about the person, make sure it is something kind, respectful, and positive.
A general rule to follow is that if you’re not willing to say something in front of someone, you probably shouldn’t say it at all.
You can’t go back and change the past, so look to the future and don’t make the same mistake twice.