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New York Times New article: http://www.nytimes.com “Sex on Campus- She can play that game too”
The concept that dating is now “dead”, exists today because of the new buzz phrase “hook-up” culture. The premise is that instead of people dating when individuals are in their teen’s and even in their 20’s, just go out and partner up for sex. If they feel a worthwhile connection with their partner, then they might start dating.
The image included with my artifact is from a Duke survey that 622 students responded to in 2014. Out of the 622 students 76% of students said that they want to be in a committed romantic relationship, but only 39% were in a committed romantic relationship and 75% would hook-up one or fewer times a month.
A more in-depth look at this culture can be found in the news article by The New York Times called Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too. This article looks at women at the University of Pennsylvania who are taking a part in hook-up culture, and there reason behind “hooking-up” and not dating.
Overall, these women state that they are involved in hook-up culture because they want a sexual relationship, but they want to focus on building their resumes. One main reason for this is they want to have there “dream job” so they do not know how long they will be in an area, and basically do not want to be tied down. One dangerous part of hook-up culture is that alcohol is more than likely involved. This leads to confusion and a disagreement about a “bad hook-up” vs. a sexual assault. A lot of victims will not report such an assault because they blame themselves either for their drinking, their behavior, or what they were wearing.
A lot of critics of this culture blame the feminist movement saying that they have gone too far (Molly & Christen, 2009). They feel that society and culture are telling these women that they can go and have sex like a man; but they really cannot. Other women critics state that these women as wasting valuable “husband hunting” opportunities. Then, you have other women, like the 3rd wave feminist Jessica Valenti, calling people who are objecting to this type of a life style as “slut-shaming”. She feels that the people are criticizing these women in this culture as being dirty women and making themselves damaged goods (Molly & Christen, 2009).
According to The New York Times article of seniors in there college year, 4 in 10 students state that they are virgins or have only had intercourse with one person, and 3 in 10 state they have never had a hook-up in college (Taylor, 2013). The Media’s portrayal of the hook-up culture makes people feel like everyone is involved, when the truth is, a good deal of people are not participating.
The hook-up culture is exposing a change in social scripts for sexuality. Perhaps because we are a technology based society where everyone is texting and on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram; thus, changing the way people are communicating. The only objectification from The New York’s Times article is that they were only looking at hook-up culture through the women’s view. It give the perception that men only want one thing from a women, which is sex.
This then creates a double standard for men and women. If a women goes out and hook-ups with a bunch on men she will get a negative label attached to her (i.e. slut). But, if a man goes out and does the same thing, he is essentially a “stud”. As previously stated, not everyone is doing this, and the media gives the opposite portrayal.
Molly and Christen, the hosts for Stuff Mom Never Told You (podcast) states an ABC poll on the number of sexual partner’s men and women in America have. For both genders it averages to be 13. For men it is an average of 20 partners, and women an average of 6 (Molly & Christen, 2009). Overall, this culture has existed for years, we simply now have a term attached to it.
Kate Taylor (2013, July 12th). Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game Too. The New York Times. Retrieved from http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/14/fashion/sex-on-campus-she-can-play-that-game-too.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
Molly & Christen. (2009, October 5th). Is Dating Going Extinct? Stuff Mom Never Told You Podcast. Podcast retrieved from http://www.stuffmomnevertoldyou.com/podcasts/is-dating-going-extinct/